How to date like a nerd
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Get some people together, and play Munchkin with her as a team.
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DSMatticus wrote:Again, look at this fucking map you moron. Take your finger and trace each country's coast, then trace its claim line. Even you - and I say that as someone who could not think less of your intelligence - should be able to tell that one of these things is not like the other.
Kaelik wrote:I invented saying mean things about Tussock.
Ubernoob: I'm kinda afraid to ask what are player moves. After the last time, you described some of the denners as being Gangster-like, I'm kinda scared of the perspective that informs you of "player moves"
Ancient History wrote:We were working on Street Magic, and Frank asked me if a houngan had run over my dog.
I can run you and the girl through a D&D adventure, if you like. Just swing by my place when schedules are compatible. My games are never dull.
It's free, she'll get her needed doses of nerd fetishdom, and the Tome barbarian is a fine class for someone who has never played.
Agreeable?
It's free, she'll get her needed doses of nerd fetishdom, and the Tome barbarian is a fine class for someone who has never played.
Agreeable?
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Man, the next time I'm by Dallas, we need to get a meeting of the Denners. I can't believe I lived so close to all of you people and never did anything. Hell, I lived in Irving for a year and then Denton for two.
Ancient History wrote:We were working on Street Magic, and Frank asked me if a houngan had run over my dog.
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Being an alpha male is like being a lady--if you are one, you don't need to insist upon it being so.
Count Arioch wrote:I'm not sure how discussions on whether PR is a terrible person or not is on-topic.
Ant wrote:You do not seem to do anything.Chamomile wrote:Ant, what do we do about Psychic Robot?
Ubernoob, your language is jargonized to the point where you can't communicate.
You seem to be saying that "nerd" and "alpha male" are two points on a continuum that can't coincide. You also seem to be associating the concepts with marginalia that don't seem all that connected.
"Alpha Male" could plausibly mean
--Someone with the respect of a large group of other men. Not that this is no way incompatible with nerd-dom. Nerds form groups of nerd-men with Alpha Nerds, and I would imagine if this girl is a nerd herself, that being the alpha nerd would be an advantage.
--Someone who has the dark triad. (narcissism, sociopathy, machiavellianism) The thing about the dark triad is that it makes people want to get to know and want to have sex with you. it doesn't make them want to stay in touch with you or be your friend. So, while emulating the dark triad might be a viable strategy for getting someone interested, you've clearly already done that. Since she is already interested in you, you have nothing to gain by acting like a sociopath.
--Someone aggressive/controlling, and perhaps sexist. This is also not the opposite of "nerd", since nerds *often* act this way. So it's more "dating like a decent person" than "dating like a nerd."
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Meanwhile, "nerd" might mean
--someone intellectual & gifted in the sciences. Obviously, some alpha males are in the sciences.
--someone obsessed with media fandom and internet culture. This can easily overlap with alpha status as well.
--someone with bad social skills, especially in the self-assertion/expression area. If this is you, you're not an alpha male. This is till not a good place to be.
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TLDR: Being a nerd is not incompatible with being an alpha, except in one sense of "nerd" which you DON'T want to be. Being an alpha is not necessarily bad, and even if the girl used those words, you should carefully consider what SHE meant by them.
You seem to be saying that "nerd" and "alpha male" are two points on a continuum that can't coincide. You also seem to be associating the concepts with marginalia that don't seem all that connected.
"Alpha Male" could plausibly mean
--Someone with the respect of a large group of other men. Not that this is no way incompatible with nerd-dom. Nerds form groups of nerd-men with Alpha Nerds, and I would imagine if this girl is a nerd herself, that being the alpha nerd would be an advantage.
--Someone who has the dark triad. (narcissism, sociopathy, machiavellianism) The thing about the dark triad is that it makes people want to get to know and want to have sex with you. it doesn't make them want to stay in touch with you or be your friend. So, while emulating the dark triad might be a viable strategy for getting someone interested, you've clearly already done that. Since she is already interested in you, you have nothing to gain by acting like a sociopath.
--Someone aggressive/controlling, and perhaps sexist. This is also not the opposite of "nerd", since nerds *often* act this way. So it's more "dating like a decent person" than "dating like a nerd."
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Meanwhile, "nerd" might mean
--someone intellectual & gifted in the sciences. Obviously, some alpha males are in the sciences.
--someone obsessed with media fandom and internet culture. This can easily overlap with alpha status as well.
--someone with bad social skills, especially in the self-assertion/expression area. If this is you, you're not an alpha male. This is till not a good place to be.
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TLDR: Being a nerd is not incompatible with being an alpha, except in one sense of "nerd" which you DON'T want to be. Being an alpha is not necessarily bad, and even if the girl used those words, you should carefully consider what SHE meant by them.
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You are not an evil mastermind. You are not going to conquer the world. You are not a chessmaster. Get your ego in check and the rest will follow.ubernoob wrote:Unfortunately, when you get used to having people just do whatever you say, you get in the habit of just telling people what to do instead of asking.
Count Arioch wrote:I'm not sure how discussions on whether PR is a terrible person or not is on-topic.
Ant wrote:You do not seem to do anything.Chamomile wrote:Ant, what do we do about Psychic Robot?
This deviation into the consideration of Uber's possible flaws and or ego based short comings is irrelevant, as clearly the girl is attracted to him regardless of them.Psychic Robot wrote:You are not an evil mastermind. You are not going to conquer the world. You are not a chessmaster. Get your ego in check and the rest will follow.ubernoob wrote:Unfortunately, when you get used to having people just do whatever you say, you get in the habit of just telling people what to do instead of asking.
Let us then remain on course with ideas on how to better entertain her since she is so enamored, yes?
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Simple enough. Although I don't have much to add to what others have already said, given that. I do agree that D&D probably isn't a good idea at this point, but IIRC, you've already agreed to that.
Do you play Dominion (the card game)? I've found that one to be fairly addicting and fun. Pretty much anyone I've played with has gotten hooked on the game. Although, being married already, I don't know how well it works for dates. I can just tell you it's mostly what my wife and I have played for the past year.
Do you play Dominion (the card game)? I've found that one to be fairly addicting and fun. Pretty much anyone I've played with has gotten hooked on the game. Although, being married already, I don't know how well it works for dates. I can just tell you it's mostly what my wife and I have played for the past year.
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You want card games that aren't timesinks or time management based.
Stuff like munchkin kinda borders this but because of its' self-referential parody, it works out in the favor of playable. M:TG while interesting is too much of a time sink. I mean you have to familarize yourself with decks and cards.
Cheapass games are nice and are very...well...cheap. A quick trip to the comic store and card game perusal will give you great options.
Fluxx and any of the additions are good.
Aquarius is actually hippyish and kinda girl-based. My daughter loves it and it is a little simplistic but both me and my wife like it.
Icehouse, I've heard, is a lot of fun and simple.
If you are confident in her ability to handle "higher-level" nerd stuff. Run a simple one-shot with her. But again, that's really on the higher-end of nerdiness.
But board games are an another easy entry
While I'm not fond of them, Monopoly, parcheesi etc... work well because they are already known and don't need a tutorial precursor.
But if you do feel inclined to try something, go for Settlers of Catan, or Carcassone. But go rules-light and keep it fun.
Games like Arkham horror are really on the top level of nerd-dom. They are seriously time-intensive and require some resource management skills.
Also, video games. If she likes FPSes, an x-bos and halo works well.
When I was in high school, I used to use DDR, mario cart, and Mario party as games for non-nerd girls. Today, the wii serves the same purpose.
Earlier, I suggested larp but near the DFW side, I remember that a lot of larpers were very hardcore.
Scarby or other ren fests should be starting soon. This is another great thing to look at.
SCA events are another great thing to take her to.
If you want to spend a little money on an actual date, take her to Medieval times. That's fun, includes liquor and food, and possibly bedroom action later on.
Stuff like munchkin kinda borders this but because of its' self-referential parody, it works out in the favor of playable. M:TG while interesting is too much of a time sink. I mean you have to familarize yourself with decks and cards.
Cheapass games are nice and are very...well...cheap. A quick trip to the comic store and card game perusal will give you great options.
Fluxx and any of the additions are good.
Aquarius is actually hippyish and kinda girl-based. My daughter loves it and it is a little simplistic but both me and my wife like it.
Icehouse, I've heard, is a lot of fun and simple.
If you are confident in her ability to handle "higher-level" nerd stuff. Run a simple one-shot with her. But again, that's really on the higher-end of nerdiness.
But board games are an another easy entry
While I'm not fond of them, Monopoly, parcheesi etc... work well because they are already known and don't need a tutorial precursor.
But if you do feel inclined to try something, go for Settlers of Catan, or Carcassone. But go rules-light and keep it fun.
Games like Arkham horror are really on the top level of nerd-dom. They are seriously time-intensive and require some resource management skills.
Also, video games. If she likes FPSes, an x-bos and halo works well.
When I was in high school, I used to use DDR, mario cart, and Mario party as games for non-nerd girls. Today, the wii serves the same purpose.
Earlier, I suggested larp but near the DFW side, I remember that a lot of larpers were very hardcore.
Scarby or other ren fests should be starting soon. This is another great thing to look at.
SCA events are another great thing to take her to.
If you want to spend a little money on an actual date, take her to Medieval times. That's fun, includes liquor and food, and possibly bedroom action later on.
Ancient History wrote:We were working on Street Magic, and Frank asked me if a houngan had run over my dog.